MY BROTHER HAS ASPERGER'S-
A SIBLING'S STORY
What is like to have a sibling with Asperger
Syndrome? In this interview, Chiara discusses life with her brother
who has Asperger syndrome.
Tell us a little about yourself…
My name is Chiara, I am ten years old and in year
six at school. I like dancing, playing the piano and talking.
Tell us a little about your brother…
Damian has Asperger Syndrome, is thirteen years
old and goes to high school.
How do you feel about having a brother with this type of disability?
It's a bit annoying but it's not a major problem.
Why is it a bit annoying?
Because we all have to help him with extra stuff.
Does having a brother with Asperger Syndrome affect your social
life? If so… how?
Yes, it's helped me understand people that have
Asperger Syndrome. I was the only person who understood a girl at
school because she has a similar disability to Damian, and now she's
my best friend.
What are some of his behaviors that you find difficult?
His arguing with everyone so much and the fact
that he has to be "always right!". The disability makes
him moody a lot and I have to remind him to do things all the time
because he forgets.
How do you feel when he displays these behaviors?
When he argues, even if it's not with me but with
Mum, I feel really angry and go to my room.
How do you cope with them?
When I get angry and go to my room, I put on some
music and dance. Sometimes I put on my meditation CD to help me
Do you feel different because you have a brother with Asperger
I don't know, because I don't know what it would
be like if he didn't have Asperger Syndrome.
Would you feel differently about your brother if he didn't have
I don't know, but I probably would because he's
really smart and funny, and I don't think he would be so smart and
funny if he didn't have AS.
Do you have any advice for other siblings of young adults with
Don't get mad if they get angry, just keep calm.
Remember that it's Asperger Syndrome so they can't really help it
and try to help them.
Chiara is ten years of age and lives with her
brother Damian who has Asperger Syndrome, and her mother Josie Santomauro
who is an author of self-published Asperger Syndrome - Resources
and of the upcoming AAPC publication Space Traveler. The
Santomauros live in Brisbane, Australia. To find out more about
the Santomauro family and Asperger Syndrome you can go to www.booksbyjosie.com.au.or
contact Josie at firstname.lastname@example.org
Copyright 2004. Reprinted with the author's permission.
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